Empowerment

Posted on by DaisyVine

I have tried to understand how these experiences and pain can help others to pay it forward. The sad thing is that I feel like my story wasnt bad enough to stand out. Its sad that there are so many victims of domestic abuse out there that I even feel this way.

I remind myself when these thoughts cross my mind that I need to instead be thankful my story was not worse. I have tremendous guardian angels that have kept me as safe as I was and out of real danger. There were definitely times I was not sure if I was going to get out and let alone safely. I have met some wonderful women along the way that have some horrific stories which has even led to being shot and surviving.

I write this blog as a test sample and also to get used to putting my story and thoughts down on paper. There are slowly some doors that are opening to help share my story with others and am very thankful for the people that have been put in my life to facilitate these opportunities. Writing was never an issue for me in highschool and college but then again it wasnt personal topics. I have received great positive feedback on how I articulate my thoughts and events which is very encouraging to continue moving forward.

I feel like there is a place for me with this message and as the journey continues I will find where I fit to share and help others along their path. I deeply feel passionate that there will be a book in the future but I also desire to reach youth and young adults to help them understand to have better relationships. I have mixed emotions about reaching men and women beyond the young adults because I am not capable of getting too close to anothers current and post situation and healing. Having to put my boundaries up to protect my own peace is very necessary. I have girlfriends currently that I have to distance myself from sometimes because their situations can tend to suck you in and as much as I believe they need help and support, there is only so much I have to give to them and need to guard myself. There is someone else out there meant to help them on that level. My healing is ongoing and the quicker people understand that about anything they are healing from the more they will be able to focus on the healing.

We all need to understand and find what we bring to the table in any relationship. We are not all meant for the same purpose. Embrace your strengths and weaknesses instead of letting our weaknesses define us.

 

Dating Interracially

Posted on by DaisyVine

I was recently asked to give feedback of reasons I only or prefer dating interracially. I wasnt quite sure which way to think about this question. I decided to write it down here to see what my thoughts look like on paper.

For reasons I am not sure, I have been approached only by black guys in the past 2 years. I have dated and married other races and am attracted to different races. My reasons I will list are by no means all encompassing that entire race but merely the majority I have encountered.

I have come to appreciate and enjoy the forward, no fear approach black men have embraced. It tends to be subtle and respectful. They are more straight forward with what they want and what they like which is very refreshing. I have been told I can be intimidating which only tells me those are the ones I dont have time for anymore in life. I need strength in the other person to be equal or surpass my own so when I need to lean on someone they can support me. I have found this with them in ways I had not seen in other races.

There are definite benefits in the bedroom but not just limited to the stereotype of size, which in most cases is true. The strength to voice what they want is very sexy and even if we are not on the same page the respect is given for boundaries. No fear of being too out there or not enough and still voicing, where other races are more timid and afraid of the response they may get in return in my experience. The stamina is across age ranges and the older the better surprisingly and along with knowing what to do to please and adjusting as we go definitely stands out. Some think its a one stop shop and get offended when things dont work instead of understanding we all have different likes and needs where trial and error sometimes is part of the fun.

The passion that is given regardless of the casual or relationship status is something I had not experienced with other races generally. They are so into the moment that you feel so special and sexy which makes everything feel better all around.

In my experience I have now opted to chose black because of the above reasons although not locked in, only a preference.