This how you know they’ve crossed the line from annoying to toxic.
BY Lisa M. Douglas May 11, 2017
2. They don’t recognize your boundaries.
Normal parents can be interested and curious, but a toxic parent will take it too far and stomp over healthy boundaries that a child sets because they believe it’s their right to.
Has your parent busted open your bedroom door whenever they want? Do they endlessly pry into your phone and your private life? Do they listen in on your conversations and question you about them later?
Growing up I didn’t have a lot of friends. I had to leave my best friend in Iowa when we moved to Texas before my 5th grade year. I was just starting to get a girlfriend in Junior High and had her come over for a sleepover. My dad thought it was funny when we were going to bed to barge in the bedroom and flip the mattress on us which put her on the floor stuck between the bed and wall with me on top. He was laughing but I was totally embarrassed and she never came over again. I guess we didn’t give enough attention before we went to bed. I still don’t know what that was about but it really doesn’t matter because barging in on your daughter with a girlfriend over is totally unacceptable.
Whenever my parents thought I had done something wrong, which was hardly ever since I was so afraid of my dads temper, it was never a given of how he would react. He was very creative I guess you could say. One of the times he had done his yelling and bent me over the stool with his yardstick and spanked me but was still not satisfied since I wouldn’t cry. I learned at a very young age not to give him the satisfaction since I saw that as him winning. As I got older I got better at taking the spanking very stoic and it started really getting to him so this time I had just gotten to my room and shut the door and he was right behind me. He was so mad that when he tried to turn the knob on the door it wouldn’t open and he immediately thought I had locked it so he actually literally kicked down my door and proceeded to spank me again just because he was angry thinking I locked the door.
The fear of my dad was very real growing up. Eggshells just doesn’t cover it.
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