Brokenhearted

Posted on by DaisyVine

Love is such a gamble. I have and still believe its worth trying to find. I have had many heartaches including two divorces. My most recent heartbreak was tonight. For four and a half months and even though there were issues I felt they were resolveable. We met each others family and they all liked us. Then I dont hear from him for almost two days which sent my imagination loose obviously. He worked alot of hours so I assumed just being inconsiderate on his part. Then he called and broke it off. No warning of anykind. His friends nor my friends understood. I still cant believe it happened. I cant sleep now and have to get up early. Nice try going to sleep now so I might as well write it out. Writing is supposed to be good therapy right? I dont know. It doesnt take the pain and loss away. Its the not knowing why that makes it harder than it is already.

Please put people out of their misery no matter how hard it is and tell them a real reason.

Respect in relationships

Posted on by DaisyVine

Sometimes I wonder how to get people back on track with how relationships are intended to work.  The give and take of compromise has been deemed “tit for tat”. The communication level has been reduced to text messages. The consideration for the others feelings and time are subject to their own schedules and supposed availability.

The “team” in relationships has been lost along with respect and trust to name a few. A relationship is to be there for the other person in any aspect of life thats needed. This is emotional, mental and physical support depending on the current need. Along with the drawback of technology’s diminishing communication options comes the advantage that it takes merely seconds to text someone you are running late or in a meeting or will call at a certain time when available. The excuse that you were working or busy just doesnt cut it with the technology available.

My current boyfriend has brought this up with his long hours at the office and then going home and falling asleep and forgetting about me yet again. Here I have called and emailed and texted to see how his day was and just to hear his voice. Needless to say I sleep like crap and am trying my very best effort to keep my imagination at bay with what might be going on with him. A simple text on his way home can aleviate this drastically.

This has led me to pull out my big girl panties and be prepared to have this all end at anytime since thats where all this is leading in my mind. Does the “party” doing this harm realize whats going on in our heads? All of this makes me feel needy but then I realize…

Im in a committed relationship and he has left me hanging with no return text or call multiple times and then says its because he is working and went home and fell asleep. I then reevaluate the situation and have decided that this is a lack of respect on his part and not me being needy. We make plans for the weekend and then at dinner friday night he will say that he has to work all weekend or most of it when I am sure he knew this before he even left work and who knows how much before. Again, complete lack of respect for me and my time and schedule. Its becoming a broken record and something I have to take a long hard look to decide how to proceed.